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I figured out how to overcome social anxiety. I'd be interested in teaching others how to overcome social anxiety. I live in Chicago. Is anyone interested around here? What would you do if you could overcome social anxiety?
Tags: Social Anxiety Cure Change
In my early blog, I wrote about noticing the emotions in others. Yet, it seems when I start noticing the feelings and emotions in others, I see it in everyone who face I see, but this is all too tiring. There are too many people, and the myriad maze of unpleasant emotions around becomes too much for me to process or discern. So then in confusion, overburdened with such a predicament I often retreat into solitude. The complexities, emotions, and feelings of others seem to be difficult, and too complex for me to fully fathom, and comprehend? Must I ignore such things? How can I bear to think of others? I can create my emotions, and I may even be able to make others happy, but is it really worth it? Is there value in communicating with others? Yet, so alone I remain. So, very alone. Alone, I care for almost nothing, or nothing at all. What shall I do? Does it really matter who I meet? Is it possible for me to care to interact with others, or is it just a burden? Intellectually, I can do anything I possibly desire. And, and then I know not how to love, or care to do anything at all. I could do great things; I could do amazing things, but does the world deserve to do good for it? Why should I care for anyone, or anything? Does anyone truly care for me? Is everyone else just a superficial machine, copying someone else, or controlled by some crazy desire within, whose bounds I do not know. I walk the streets, and see the multitude engrossed in some petty trifle. They care so much about so stupid of a thing. The score of someone fills the excitement within the streets. Girls shuffle through garments aisle after aisle in search of some elusive thing for what? People walk to their jobs with sullen faces to slaving on for no purpose and for no end, until even that must suddenly go. Is such a world true at all? Is such a world worth it all.
Tags: Empathy Emotion Connection Lonliness
I have worked to move beyond my social anxiety, and I have found within myself an amazing ability to empathize with the world. I can walk outside onto the street, see people's emotions, and feel their emotions. I know I have always had this ability, but I now realize I had long supressed it for so long. Just walking around the city, I can catch people's emotional state, make a comment or two and bring a smile to their faces. Yet, it is not easy to be able to read people. Many people are not in a happy state. The world is full of bitterness, resentment, and despair. In allowing so many feelings to enter my soul, I must work hard to continue to find good in the world. I can still do this, but at this point, it is still tiring and puts a sap in my soul. I suspect as I exercise this ability more, I may strengthen my soul. All this requires no special drugs, and I do not know if this ability is posessd by all. I don't think there is any supernatural power in me, but rather I can just see others, and read their expression, and become one with their essence. As if part of some spiritual awakening, I now scour the world in hopes of improving the world's soul. I am a scientist at heart, and I'm not really claiming I have psychic powers or anything. I just have opened to the ability to really feel something. Also, when I hear I REALLY feel the emotion of the music. Does anyone understand what I'm talking about. Thanks.
Tags: Empathy Emotion Supression Power Isolation
As I mentioned I have quickly overcome social anxiety, and I now have almost complete confidence in myself. While I'm happy to be confident, I am now facing a whole new set of challenges. People are suddently coming up to me, and asking for social advice. Besides, people seem to look at me in a different way. I am no longer afraid to speak strongly and honestly. However, this seems to hurt some people's feelings. I don't think I want to act any differently, but I'm confronting a new world. How do I learn how to deal with this? Just a few weeks ago, I was confronted with social anxiety. Now, I am an outgoing alpha male. The transition has been so quick, I'm still trying to figure it out. I am facing a whole new set of decisions, which I need to understand.
Tags: Social Anxiety Confidence Change
A few weeks, I decided I would try being happy. I used some methods to that end, but really that was all I did. Since then, my social anxiety has pretty much disappeared. It is taking me some time to adjust. I'm not totally used to not being shy anymore, but I'm adjusting. I just wanted to tell everyone on here.
Tags: Social Anxiety Confidence Change
I decided to try being happy. I've never been too into the idea of being happy. If you are happy, how are supposed to remember all of the problems in the world? What will you do if you start forgetting the problems of your life? What will you do if somehow the social anxiety just went away? What could be worse?
However, I decided it was at least worth at least a try. I have started reframing my thoughts into positive light. By forcing myself to smile, and reading inspirational stories, I decided to put myself into a happy state. I don't know if I am really any happier, but I do seem to look happier in the mirror, and I think look happier to others. Although, I had to think over the philosohical consequences of this. What is it like to think positively? I think it involves deciding to do things, rather than deciding not to do things. Logically, negations can end up with (a-->b)--->(~b-->~a), and crazy proof by contradictions can result. Behaviorally, it means inhibiting behavior. Yet, if you keep inhibiting behavior, what will you end up doing? You probably shirk in fear at every action, roll up into a ball, and sleep forever in endless depression. On the contrary if you keep thinking up new things to do, you will be busy, jumping from one thing to the next.
Tags: Hapiness Social Anxiety Emotion
Where I now feel least affected by social anxiety, I now realize it was just a replacement of anxiety about being social, with an ability to express things socially. I wish I were in a situation where I could care about others, but right now I just feel cold, and unable to inject any love or care in the world. While I don't feel s anxious talking to people at the moment, I realize it has come at the expense of an ability to care for others. I have no memory of hanging out with other people, and enjoying it. I live a life with few if any emotional bonds or connections. My world has gone cold. I would like to get out of this. I would like to have real friends, but I am unable. What should I do? I could contribute so much to the world, but no matter what I do, I do not know how to really connect with others. I have noticed the superficiality of the culture in which I live, and I no longer accept its delusions. I walked over to clothing stores, and I saw them filled with women obsessing over what clothes to buy. I walked into Borders, and I saw people staring at fashion magazines with meaningless photos of idiots. i looked on the internet, and saw more meaningless articles on the presidential election. I looked at novels in the bookstore, and I saw endless encouragements of this ridiculous culture. I'd like to really be able to connect with others, and be happy. Yet, how can this be done in this world?
Tags: Social Fun Interesting Social Anxiety
So, I just got started on this site. Everyday, I wake wondering if I really be able to communicate with anyone during the day. I feel the great lonliness of one, who has never really had a true friend. Through my whole life thus far, everyone I've met with whom I might have been a friend, I've mostly lost contact with them soon after meeting them. Although, I'm 24, and I believe I have more full life and more socially satisfying life yet to live.
At times, I have given up on the world, and hoped I could turn inward in some far off intellectual pursuit. Yet, alone, I lose all interest in such pursuits, and come to fear being seen by all outside my locked door. In such states, I only emerge to nibble upon some food, and then return to a futile pursuit of the intellectually impossible. While I some genuine math skill, at times I have thrown my brain into endless logical loops, attempting to solve some impossible problem and wallowing away in depression. Another time, seeing myself akin to the guy in the movie PI, I saw myself predicting the stock market in total perfection. While I probably posessed skill to suceed at such endeavor to some degree, I rejected the possible, and endlessly looped trying the same failed thing on the impossible. During such times, I have put myself into isolation, unable to interact with others. Now, I go out, and I see others smiling, taking to other people, and living a full life. Even those, who are sad, seem to be in a different world than me. I talk to some people, here, and others, there. Only, I don't know what to say. All chatter seems superficial, and sharing no real or deep connection. At times, I wish to reach, and truly connect with others, but I don't know how, and I am witheld with anxiety, shame of my condition, and fear. Where shell I go? What should I do? I do not know. While I can say more now, at times gone by, I have only had poetry to express how I feel. So a poem: Days and nights, The sun goes up, The sun goes down, The world goes by, Nothing changes within, Oh where, Oh Where, Do I begin?
Tags: Friendship Love Obsession
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