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Posted On: 06/02/2008 07:31:55

So my professor friend is trying to set me up with some guy he knows.

I do not want this. I do not want to be set up with anyone. I'm a bit jaded right now and am actually enjoying being alone.

In the past few days I have seen the Sex and the City movie and 27 Dresses. These are stupid, silly fluff movies, but I actually did learn something from them: I physically CAN'T do it again. I just can't. I don't even want to. Like all romances, there's a point in both movies where the guy does something stupid and the woman gets angry and leaves his sorry ass. The guy, of course, begs and pleads and she ultimately forgives him and takes his sorry @$$ back.

This last part is what I find to be completely unrealistic. I was incredulous when the person (no spoiler, I hope!) took the guy back. Really? You just jumped right back into the relationship without fixing the original problem. You think that's going to make you live happily ever after? Happily ever after doesn't exist. Wait until it's 8.5 years later and the jackass decides that all of the things you're good at and all of your positive qualities are really what make you a horrible person and throws back every one of your successes back in your face, but spun as failures. Then he'll steal your cat, because he feels entitled to her, since you made him completely miserable for seven years and he deserves her. Men are fickle bastards. Nothing is forever. It's the harsh truth. Don't be so naive to think that it's going to change. It will NEVER change.

So anyway, I don't want to go out with this guy. I now know what the phrase "emotionally unavailable" means. You want me to actually care about someone else and put up with all of their stupid shit? Well, sorry, I don't have the patience to jump right back in and deal with all the petty bullshit that comes along with dating. It's too much. And I just don't have time to care. It may seem cruel and heartless to some, but that's just the way it is.

But my prof-friend was persistent. Plus, he was in the grad student office, which was full of other grad students. So they all ganged up on me and badgered me until I agreed to have the guy email me. The whole "I'm leaving in two weeks" excuse wouldn't work either, because the guy is a flight attendant who flies from Cincinnati to Frankfurt all the time. The whole "Frankfurt is nowhere near Wolfenbüttel" excuse didn't work either, because they wouldn't hear it. The whole "He's a flight attendant so that means he's shorter than me" excuse didn't work, because they told me to stop being petty and that lots of people were shorter than my giant-ass body. The whole "But I don't want to" excuse didn't work, because they're persistent bastards, all of them.

I'm so annoyed right now.

Have a nice day,
Kelly :)

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From: Keith

06/03/2008 10:55:15

I know what you mean about being annoyed at the lengths people go to to set singles up with each other. My brother's girlfriend tried to get me to...well it's a long story. I won't go into it, but by the time she got done I wanted to crawl under a rock from embarrassment.

The only advice I have is to do whatever the hell you want. That said, you may have to go through with at least e-mailing this guy a couple of times to get everyone off your back about this.

If you do end up in contact with this guy, be very up-front about where you are in your life. That might just do the trick of getting you out of having to date this guy and it will probably get back to your prof-friend who might just take the hint and stop this nonsense.

From: ASheyeGeye

06/03/2008 01:00:31

Don't bathe for a few days before you go on the date, that should shorten things up.

I know what it's like to be "emotionally unavailable". I could have cared less about women after my last relationship, and even several years later I'm still indifferent to the idea of dating. I think at some point, most of us will have the desire to seek love again. BTW, your ex should die for taking the cat.

From: theskyisfalling

06/02/2008 09:53:45 when people try to get me to do something that i pos dont want to do i flat out say NO with no excuses. you dont need to have an excuse to not do something that you really dont want to do.just say no. has worked like a charm for me everytime.

From: Chuck0823

06/02/2008 09:41:49 Reminds me of the time my roommate bugged me to go out a second time with a girl who, on our first date, admitted she had bipolar disorder, spent an hour telling me what was wrong with every guy she ever dated, got so drunk she had to pee in public, and told me she did naked webcasts under the handle "Ass Goddess." So trust me, Kelly, I hear you on this one. ;) hug :)

From: darknightt

06/02/2008 08:57:52 Yeah, I'm in the same boat. This girl keeps on bugging me at work to go out. Its been like a year already. Intentions are good, I'm sure, but its more hurtful than helpful; until you heal.