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Allowing the world to be beautiful
Posted On 09/11/2008 09:00:19 by dyingtolive

we hate and get pissed at "they or the world because of how "tired" we think they make us, or we actually allow them to make us. The illusion we created over the years. it grows on us. There is no "objective" world. there is no absolute world. No, we don't all live in the same world. We are our thoughts. That is where the world is defined. That's what brings it into existence. As long as we're alive, we have a choice how to define it. We have the power to control what matters, and what does not matter.

The world can be a beautiful place if we allow it to be. Sometimes I believe I don't allow myself to be happy. I fear being happy because it's "different". It's settling for less, just because this is how it is - just like how the abused settle to serve their sentences of living a life in fear. Its a spell cast upon them, and it takes a hard smack on the head to wake up.

There was a scene from the film "Adaptation", the main character played by Nicolas Cage, a depressed and anixety suffering writer, was in a writing workshop. He asked the speaker, who was a successful writer, something like, "how do we move the story if in reality, nothing much really happens in life... Life is a cold dark place, etc, etc...". The speaker was enraged and came back with something like, "What the $&#^% are you talking about!? What do you mean nothing happens? So much happens every second of every day in any given place in the world! You're such an idiot! Sheesh" or something like that.

...

When I don't remember to remind myself... I get lost, living in "THEIR" world, not mine. Living as a victim.
It all starts from the mind and in our thoughts.

The next time we feel that way, let's ask, "Why am I not living my life, and why am I not in the beautiful world that is?"

 

 



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From: Linda_gx
09/16/2008 04:47:56

I got told in counselling that when you always blame others, you are giving away your power to them (ie their fault, so they need to fix it..not me!)     BUT when you take on board the things you ARE doing wrong, it PUTS YOU in a POSITION OF POWER to FIX IT  (if you want to , and when you're ready to...of course!!!! )   Changes from the victim to the problem solver!!!       I like that empowerment, and it stops me from feeling so guilty about 'not' being perfect!!     Reading your blog again has reminded me of this...THANKYOU!!!!!   Lx:o) 



From: Linda_gx
09/15/2008 10:34:43

WOOOWWWWWWWW!!!  I LIKE IT!!!!   The world (our reality) portays back to us how we feel and think!!! So we can change it by thinking happy....It DOES work...I 've noticed that when I smile at people they smile back...when I look up suspoiciously they stare at me...OWWW!!!   So when I smile..many others do too...and I feel SAFER and HAPPIER...because I've had a  +ve  affect on someone else's life, as well as my own!!!  Lx:o)



From: evrgrn
09/11/2008 01:52:35

Very well said. 

Di



From: felixmason
09/11/2008 10:26:48


You wrote:


The next time we feel that way, let's ask, "Why am I not living my life, and why am I not in the beautiful world that is?"...


Hey, I like that. Im normally the last guy for sentimental inspirational mottos and such, but I dig that. Im gonna steal that. Thanks man!


PS I like how you compared our choice to remain to a re-victimization. Not-so-pretty imagery, but an apt description.





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