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Social Awkwardness and Misunderstandings
Posted On 05/15/2008 12:15:42 by michellaneous
For some reason when I'm nervous I make really weird movements. Like, if I wanted to slowly turn my head to the right, it would be more of a swift, jerky movement. Also, when I just want to sit still I can't. Its like impossible. I have to be tapping my foot or cracking my knuckles or doing something. I don't understand it. I'm sure my discomfort makes other people uncomfortable lol. Also I'm really socially awkward. Like, if someone introduces their self to me, I never know what to say. "Nice to meet you" or something never comes to mind. Oh and when someone tells me that their relative died I can never respond, I might say "Oh..." or something like that. Why can't I ever think of "I'm sorry, best wishes to you and your family" or something? I don't want them to think that I'm cold and don't care, but I'm sure thats what they think. Speaking of being cold, a lot of people think I'm "stuck up", but thats not true. I'm just withdrawn from people because I see myself as below them, not above them. I wish there was a book that tells you what to do/say in different social interactions. Or maybe I just need to practice speaking in front of a mirror or something. Well, that wouldn't help because I'd probably go blank and forget everything. 

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From: thefreed
05/15/2008 07:09:38
I understand, I think that comes with social phobia.


From: TAMPABAY
05/15/2008 10:55:15

Hi nice first blog. To answer your question why you response are alwayse so robotic. Its because you are not comfortable. If you were not sufuring in secret with your anxiety you would feel more relax I think but no one you probaly know deals with things like not being able to go to a restruant and order food or make business phone calls.

If you were an acholic things would be diffrent cause its so excepted. Try telling people you have a problem with socializing and they give you a weird look.

Another odd thing is why do we alwayse get labled as stuck up? I could see if we spoke and then they made a decsion based on that but we just sit there quietly because we some times have nothing to add and people just start makeing things up about us.

One of the things that has helped me alot is just chatting with other members on these site. Maby you can even try doing a web cam chat. Those are the best practice.

From: workinprogress87
05/15/2008 08:27:12

That's me....

I manage to say things like I'm sorry and stuff but it never comes off as sincere...

Do you have anyone who understands your condition?

From: iotangel
05/15/2008 01:53:30
Yikes, I have some of the same issues.... its difficult, very difficult.... i wish you the best of luck. let me know if you find the book :P


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