07/24/2007 06:34:50

wow sorry to hear that. if you dont mind me asking, can i ask you why you guys broke up? and for how long have you been dating this person for? that really must hurt for sure!! for her to be pregnant. im sure if she wasnt pregnant but just dating, things would be fine with your feelings. and from what i am reading, it souns like right away she got pregnant? i mean you only left her over 3 months ago? and it sounds like only recently you were planning to ask her out again? correct me if im wrong. but yeah i myself am in a lonnnng relationship and i dont feel satisfied for some reason and i feel like pushing my lover away but then i think about if he met someone else and had a family with someone else, how would that be, or how would i feel. hes like my best friend too so its hard to let him go. its like i cant live with him or without him....ahhhhh!!!! and everyone is expecting us to get married someday and that scares me soo bad! i dont want to. im not sexually attracted to him anymore (atleast i havent been for the last 3 years or so) so i can only imagine how you must feel :(

07/10/2007 08:16:24

I'm so sorry you're hurting. (((HUGS)))

07/08/2007 06:25:09

my advice would be to take time away from her if you are that distrought over the situation.  It very hard to move on and get over a situation when you are faced with it on a daily basis.  I'd say to take time away and channel the time you spent with her into something else that is positive like a new friendship, relationship, or hobby.  And then, when you have moved on mentally..you can truly be just her friend.  But until you have moved on, I don't think you will feel any better about the situation and it could lead to more depression, obsession, and loneliness.