love

By: ace Mood: Dont know Date: May 11, 2008 Music: None

I may not have much practical experience with love, but I think that's a positive thing rather than a negative. I just think about how pure your love is when you're a child. How unaffected it is by time and experience. At that time your idea of love is yours alone and it seems so strong and unshakable.  With each negative experience in love though the whole thing becomes more and more dragged down. The experience doesn't even have to be our own. I can't begin to tell you how many times I've heard that love does not last and that you should just take what you can get because in the end you'll be safe and secure. I've avoided love for the majority of my life because I thought this was complete bullshit. I choose not to believe the things that I've been told about love. I've been very careful with who I've given my love to cause I had to prove that love it real. My intention isn't to be a romantic its to be stubborn. After all if you choose to give up on something that you believe in then you're guaranteed to never get it. I rather look like a complete fool and fail than to have given up.

I will always believe in love as it was when i first met it. I will always hold those things in my heart and more importantly my head. To me love is not the feeling you get when you first meet someone. Love is not the excitement you feel when you're learning about a new person. Its not the rush of emotions that you feel when you experience new things with someone. Its not the hormones you feel through your body. No, all of those things are falling in love. Everybody seems to think that you can only fall in love once. That that feeling of falling in love is gone, its gone forever. From then on a relationship is hard work and is something that needs to be managed. 

 To me loving someone, not just falling in love, is realizing that it's not hard work. Love is not work. Love is not compromise. Love is always keeping the other person in mind in the context of all your actions. Love is putting the other person above all else and feeling good about it because it will matter most in the end. Love is showing a deep and genuine interest in the other person so that you're always experiencing something new. From this you constantly feel this sense of falling in love. You never feel like you have to miss it and you can always maintain a sense of excitement within yourself. Love is knowing that the other person feels exactly as you do. That no matter how hard things can get, it is never work. When love becomes work it becomes something negative in your life and it will slowly fade. You're concern, your thoughtfulness, your care, your friendship, your interest and your desire to be with this person will vanish.

 In a way, love is a type of undying faith. It's a faith in another person. It's faith in yourself. Knowing that your care for each other will always be returned without question. All that can be asked is that you fulfill your half. If your faith, if your love is misplaced at least its not for lack of your love. That love is real. Love is real and its not a compromise. Love is and always will be what is was when you first met it. Love is selfless. It is without exception and its not something that gets in the way. It's undying and endlessly positive.